“他们根本就不懂我！”这恐怕是办公室起争端后，员工最常用的借口之一。事实上，大多数员工表示，他们早已厌倦职场文化扼杀员工自身个性了。
当今，员工们越来越希望从事一些意义性质较强的工作。他们希望在一个更加真实的环境之中，尽情分享和交流业务信息、个人理想奋斗，集中解决问题。但往往现实是，孤立无援、有时甚至领导层的政治斗争等现实问题，却使得他们很难凝聚生产力。
职场中，我们往往经历过类似的境遇，只不过表现形式略微不同而已。所有人都是受害者，但绝大多数都不愿意分享经历，因为他们觉得乌云总会散去。在这里，有一个用于沟通、提高透明度及促进同事团结的小窍门。即，每个人都应学会乐于分享自我，只有这样才能提高并得到完善。我发现，当人们了解你的背景故事的时候，他们会对你更加尊敬。这种情况下，你的同事会更加体贴你的工作，会想方设法的融入你的处境，甚至是打入心灵。我还发现，这种方式不奏效的时候，你根本无法融入当前文化氛围。
每个人都有自己的背景故事。不幸的是，多数人发现当他越是试图忘掉那些故事，它们反而越容易勾起回忆。实际上，这种情况的产生，是因为我们的故事每天都在发生——而且绝大多数是大同小异。所以，为什么小社团和在线的社区交流会如此受欢迎？就是因为，在当今世界人们越来越注重心灵和大脑的交流。
在此，为您提供6条有助于在职场中提升领导个人影响力的小贴士：
1、你的目标和抱负
让他人知道你的理想抱负是一件很重要的事。你必须让大家知道，你在向着什么样的目标不懈奋斗着。把自己的目标公之于众不是什么见不得人的事。甚至多和大家探讨探讨还能更加激发你的斗志呢！深入讨论奋斗目标，能够将彼此的心连得更紧，也有助于大家伙统一策略的向前进。
可能你正处于中层管理的位置，你的目标是领导一个小团队向着公司的终极目标，越做越好。你不仅可以研究合适的继任计划，也许还能为成为未来的员工资源组（ERG）领导做准备。这些经历都将为你提供有用的经验，以帮助你实现最终目标。
2、你的后继资源
不要总以为别人可以单纯的通过姓名就推测到你的文化背景。其实，即使他们能够分辨出来，也很难察觉到一些文化上的细微差别。你的后继资源是指你的客户、你的工作态度及企业愿景。它代表着你的本质及发展方向，能够帮助他人理解你是如何做领导并决定蓝图方向的。
打个比方，如果你是一个韩国人，并渴望积极融入我们的团队文化，而你又非常精通你本国的文化市场趋势。那么，如果将以上资源共享给他人，你便很有可能就此打开了市场国际化的新局面。
3、你的激情
什么最能使你兴奋？说出来，和大家分享吧。相信我，这一定能使你每天精力充沛，工作起来目标明确，并极度富有创造性。可能你的激情会让有些人摸不着头脑，但这都没关系，它一定能使你离自己的下一个目标更近一点。请一定相信我，因为我时常想办法激发员工的斗志和激情，经证实，这一招真的很神奇。
教练可以成为好导师。我记得曾经，我的一名经理人对于棒球运动很有热情。在他邀请我参加几场棒球比赛之后，我突然间意识到兴许他可以被借来做团队的导育工作，于是我便请了他。
4、你的灾难和斗争
这一条并不那么美好，但却非常有必要。我们每个人在生活中，都不免会经历一些遭遇或挫折。令我感到不可思议的是，在面对困难的时候，大家的表现是惊人的相似。如果你敢于将自己的失败经验同团队分享，那么在下次遇到类似问题的时候，情况可能大有不同。
就像我们很多人，家中都有年迈的父母，那么关爱老人就是一件具有挑战性的任务。但随着时间的推移，你的耐心和智力会接受越来越重的考验。这一切经验都可以作为团队资源，在成员之间相互共享，也许还可大大激励成员的工作积极性。
5、你的家庭和童年
从个体方面来讲，你的父母或兄弟姐妹，可以帮助你更多的了解同事。可以这样说，你的家庭背景基本决定了你的个人属性，直接影响你的人格发展。
这也就是为什么说，通过你的童年，基本能让他人大致了解你的个人情况。比如，我是在南加州的一个名叫阿祖瑟的小镇长大。当年，我父亲在离家一街之隔的米勒酿酒公司（Miller Brewing Company）工作，他每天中午回家吃饭，所以我有大量的时间和父亲共处，尤其是在夏天。那时候，父亲给我讲述了很多关于他过去移民以及在古巴生活的那些故事。
6、你的兴趣爱好
工作以外的业余生活，能够燃烧你的心灵。不管你是爱好乐器演奏，还是其他活动，大胆在团队中秀出你的风采。我记得曾有一位公司老板特别爱好吉他弹奏，刚好公司里也有其他3位员工爱好不同的乐器，然后他们联合起来组建了一支乐队，时常为大家表演。
以上六点综合起来形成一个最真实的你——即，你为什么这样想，你为什么这样做，这样做是为了什么。所以，身处管理层的骨干们，尽量多在工作中创造你的职场影响力，和下属们多分享你的思想火花和独特见地吧，长此以往，你的成功领导形象一定会愈来愈放大的！
“They just don’t understand me!” This is one of the most popular excuses from employees that are having trouble creating impact and influence in the workplace. In fact, most employees who say that are just tired of a workplace culture that does not encourage them to share their individuality.
Today’s employee wants to engage in a more meaningful and purposeful way. They want to throw titles and corporate speak out the door. They want a more genuine environment where people can share their concerns about the business, their personal struggles and ways to collectively solve problems. Workplace silos, the politics of leadership and the fight for recognition make it difficult for these employees to be productive.
We all experience similar challenges in the workplace, just in different forms. Everyone is hurting, but most are scared to share it because they believe this will disrupt any momentum they have. The trick is to connect with your colleagues in ways that promote transparency and unity. People must learn how to feel comfortable about sharing more about themselves; their personal selves. I have learned that when people know your personal backstory they approach you more respectfully. Your colleagues become more aware of what really matters to you and will find ways to integrate your heart into your work.
I have also learned that when this approach doesn’t work, you won’t fit into that culture.
Everyone has a backstory. Unfortunately, most people feel that if they disclose it, it will weaken them. In fact, the reverse happens because all our stories overlap – and those parts that we share connect us. Why do you think small groups and online communities have become so popular? In today’s world, people want to connect with others in ways that matter equally to their hearts, and their heads.
Here are (6) personal traits that will help you accelerate your influence at work:
1. Your Goals and Aspirations:
Let others know about what you strive to become, where you are headed and / or what path you desire to take in your career. It’s ok to be open about what you long for. Discussions about goal setting are always enlightening and create great dialogue. They connect people in profound ways that bring them closer together – and that help people work more strategically with one another.
Perhaps you are in middle management and your goal is to lead a business division in your organization. Not only can the right succession plan be put into place, but maybe you can be assigned as the next employee resource group (ERG) leader that will offer you the experiences and exposure that will be required to reach your ultimate goal.
2. Your Heritage:
Don’t ever assume that others know your cultural background based on your name alone. In fact, even if they can figure it out, they may not understand the nuances of your culture. Your heritage defines your customs, attitude and outlook. It represents your roots and most likely how you were raised. It helps others understand how you are wired as a leader, decision maker and individual.
For example, if you are from South Korea and are actively involved in your community, you are well versed in the desires and market trends of your culture. Based on how you share this trait with others, there can be an opportunity to work with as an advisor to your organization’s multicultural marketing department.
3. Your Passion:
What excites you most? Share it with others. This cultivates an interesting dialogue because it touches the core of what fuelsyou and gets you going each day. Your passion defines the magnitude of the impact you seek to create. While you may surprise some people, it may get you closer to the next opportunity in your organization. Believe me, I always find ways to align the passion of my employees with their responsibilities.
Coaches can be great mentors. I remember that one of my managers was passionate about being a high school baseball coach. After he invited me to a few games I realized that he would be a valuable asset to our organization’s mentoring program.
4. Your Adversities / Struggles:
This one is delicate, but necessary. We have all faced hurdles in life and it amazes me just how much we all have in common when adversities are shared. How you can contribute to your organization by utilizing the lessons learned from your experiences with adversity can make a big difference.
Like many of us who have aging parents, caring for elderly is challenging. But over time you acquire patience and an aptitude and spirit of wanting to help others. This experience can help you serve as small group leader to others that share the same struggle in your organization; but also gives you the opportunity to support your company’s corporate social responsibility (CSR) initiatives.
5. Your Family/ Childhood:
Talking about your parents and/or siblings will give your colleagues a broader understanding of who you are and what you represent as an individual. Your family defines your fabric and materials that influenced your upbringing.
That is why your childhood can help others learn a lot about your perspectives. For example, I grew up in a small town called Azusa, in Southern California. Because my father worked at the Miller Brewing Company just down the street he would come home for lunch every day and I was able to spend a lot of time with my Dad, especially during the summer, where he would share stories about the impact of his immigrant past and his experiences in Cuba before Castro.
Perhaps now you know why I write about the immigrant perspective.
6. Your Hobbies
What you do outside of work fuels your heart and soul. Whether it’s your desire to play an instrument or give back to your local community. Share what drives you in ways that others don’t know about. I remember I had a boss that played the guitar. I also knew of (3) others in my work that played instruments and they formed a band that performed for the organization.
These (6) personal stories represent the real you: why you think, act and innovate the way that you do. Open your mind to seeing beyond the obvious ways to create influence in your work. By sharing your personal stories, the impact that you can have on those around you will be greatly magnified.
